i decided to go ahead and use this list to collect removal procedures from all of these websites and provide direct links or instructions to do so.
the following list was provided as being the "big boys", so if you remove your name from these ones then all the smaller "sites" should fall afterwards.
how to remove yourself from each of these have been listed below. i would recommend that you scan some form of id such as a state issued id like a drivers license. black out your picture and drivers number. leaving your name, address and dob visible. any sites that requires such a thing will have an * after the address.
intelius.com* - opt-out
acxiom.com - opt-out
mylife.com - to request that a member profile or public profile be deleted, please contact customer care at 1-888-704-1900 or contact us by email at email@example.com. upon receipt of these requests, and confirmation that you are requesting that your own profile be removed, please allow mylife 10 business days to complete this removal. it may be necessary to contact you to validate that you are the profile owner requesting the removal. this is to ensure the correct identity and profile ownership before completing these requests, and is for the protection of our users and their privacy.
zabasearch.com* - opt-out
spokeo.com - opt-out
beenverified.com - lawyerct's guide
peekyou.com - opt-out
ussearch.com* - opt-out
peoplefinders.com - opt-out: annoying form you have to mail in
peoplelookup.com* - in order for peoplelookup to suppress or opt out your personal information from appearing on our website, we need to verify your identity. to do this, we require faxed proof of identity. proof of identity can be a state issued id card or driver's license. if you are faxing a copy of your driver's license, we require that you cross out the photo and the driver's license number. we only need to see the name, address and date of birth. we will only use this information to process your opt out request. please fax to 425-974-6194 and allow 4 to 6 weeks to process your request.
peoplesmart.com - opt-out
privateeye.com - opt-out
whitepages.com - opt-out
usa-people-search.com - opt-out: yet another form to mail in
publicrecordsnow.com - still determining how to remove...
dobsearch.com* - in order for us to “opt out” your public information from being viewable on the public dobsearch people finder search results, we need to verify your identity and require faxed proof of identity. proof of identity can be a state issued id card or driver's license, or notarized letter. if you are faxing a copy of your driver's license, you may cross out the photo and the driver's license number. we only need to see the name, address and date of birth. please fax to 516-717-3017 and allow 4 to 6 weeks to completely process your request. it is your responsibility to ensure legibility of your document
radaris.com - opt-out; thanks to those who figured it out.
those are all the major sites. of course, you could go to the topic mentioned in the beginning of this post and findlawyerct's business to have a team of professionals remove these for you at a fee.